I wanna talk today about how to accept an apology. This may seem like a very simple thing, but often we go about it all wrong. What we have to understand is that an apology has two intentions. One is the intention to correct one's behavior. The other is to make amends with the person … Continue reading How to Accept an Apology
Love & Relationships
How to Apologize
Apologizing seems simple enough, but there's more to it than merely saying “I'm sorry.” An apology is not only an expression of regret. It should also come with the sincere intention to correct one's behavior. When we apologize we should understand clearly what we're apologizing for, otherwise our words will be empty of meaning. If … Continue reading How to Apologize
Why You Haven’t Found Your Soulmate… and Likely Never Will
According to a recent survey, roughly 73% of the (U.S.) population believes in soulmates. That is, we believe there is one special person who we’re meant to be with for the rest of our lives. But more than this, we believe that this person will be our perfect match in every way. And we will … Continue reading Why You Haven’t Found Your Soulmate… and Likely Never Will
Insecurity in Relationships
Every relationship has its challenges. And we often find ourselves overwhelmed, unable to resolve tensions, and in some cases making the situation worse. We tend think of these challenges as problems to be solved or even escaped. But in order to make any progress, it’s important to understand how these issues arise. We need to … Continue reading Insecurity in Relationships
Can We Ever Find Security in Anything?
What does it mean to be secure, and is security possible? We talk about security in a number of contexts such as financial security, national security, security in relationships and so on. But what does it really mean to be secure? To secure something means to get a hold of it in such a way … Continue reading Can We Ever Find Security in Anything?
Illusions of Love
As a teenager I experienced a fair amount of heartbreak. Sometime after falling in love my partner would gradually lose interest, becoming distant and indifferent, and eventually deciding to call it off. The breakup would leave me with a sense of despair and sometimes anger. But I wanted to understand why. I wanted to know … Continue reading Illusions of Love
Independent in Love
In a previous article entitled “Freedom in Relationships” I talked about the importance of respecting one another’s personal freedom by not imposing rules, restrictions and obligations. I talked before about freedom in relationship. Today I want to elaborate more on maintaining personal independence while in a relationship. What I mean is that so many of us look … Continue reading Independent in Love
Casual Romance
We have such a tendency to see everything in black and white, as polar opposites, as two sides of the spectrum, while ignoring all the gray area in between. And something I've observed is that many people out there in the dating scene tend to see only two possibilities for relationship. Either you're looking for … Continue reading Casual Romance
A Spiritual Perspective on Marriage
I remember as a child attending my uncle’s wedding. During the ceremony my grandfather turned to me and said, as adults often do, “One day you’ll be getting married.” I shook my head, and he laughed. He must have assumed that, being a young boy, I thought that girls were icky. But that wasn’t the … Continue reading A Spiritual Perspective on Marriage
Restoring Balance Between the Masculine and Feminine
It would seem, in most cultures, that we derive much of our personal identity from our biological sex. And in such cultures there are strong divisions between men and women regarding societal roles and behavior. These gender roles are conditioned in us from such an early age that we grow to assume that they are natural. … Continue reading Restoring Balance Between the Masculine and Feminine
