Have you noticed that just as quickly as you fall in love with someone, you can just as suddenly fall out of love? Why is that? Could it be that what we call 'love' is often something other than love? We often confuse many things with love, in particular, attraction and infatuation. So to be … Continue reading UNHAPPY TOGETHER – Why Do We Fall Out of Love? And Why Do We Stay?
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A Spiritual Perspective on Marriage
I remember as a child attending my uncle’s wedding. During the ceremony my grandfather turned to me and said, as adults often do, “One day you’ll be getting married.” I shook my head, and he laughed. He must have assumed that, being a young boy, I thought that girls were icky. But that wasn’t the … Continue reading A Spiritual Perspective on Marriage
Transitioning from Monogamy to an Open Relationship
Monogamy has been the social standard for romantic relationships for quite some time, but more and more people are beginning to realize that most of us just aren’t wired that way. In fact, many so-called “monogamous” relationships aren’t truly monogamous when you examine them more deeply. But having agreed to remain exclusive, our exploration of … Continue reading Transitioning from Monogamy to an Open Relationship
Monogamy as the Social Standard
In our society Monogamy is kind of a given. It’s so infused into the cultural consciousness that we don’t give it much thought. When we enter into a relationship we rarely sit down to talk about whether or not we are going to be monogamous. It’s often just assumed that we are. But more and … Continue reading Monogamy as the Social Standard
Dealing with Difficulties in Relationships
When it comes to romantic relationships one of the most common fantasies we have is that we’re going to find our perfect partner and live happily ever after. We imagine a relationship in which everything runs smoothly, where there is no conflict, no agitation, no disappointment. We imagine that every moment spent with our partner … Continue reading Dealing with Difficulties in Relationships
Why I Never Give My Partner Permission to Do Anything…
It is commonly believed that if you love and respect a person, you should allow them a certain amount of privilege. While on the other hand, there’s also the old adage, “If you give someone an inch, they’ll take a mile.” The “experts” say that there should be a balance. They say that you should … Continue reading Why I Never Give My Partner Permission to Do Anything…
Overcoming Jealousy & Insecurity
Jealousy is perhaps one of the most common emotions we experience in regard to relationships, and yet it is seldom understood. And because it occurs so regularly it is generally accepted as a normal, healthy emotional reaction. It is even considered by some to be a measure of one’s love. We commonly assume that if … Continue reading Overcoming Jealousy & Insecurity
Freedom in Relationships
Most of us recognize that we are individual persons, having our own unique experiences, perceptions, thoughts, feelings, and so on. We recognize that, as individuals, we have inherent personal freedom. That is, we understand that no one owns us, that no one has control over how we think or what we feel. Even when it … Continue reading Freedom in Relationships
Why We Lie, and the Value of Truthfulness
I think that most of us are familiar with the story of young George Washington chopping down his father’s beloved cherry tree. When confronted by his father, George replies, “I cannot tell a lie. I chopped down the cherry tree.” Having admiration for his son’s honesty, the father decides not to punish him. The story … Continue reading Why We Lie, and the Value of Truthfulness
