“My partner isn't the same person they were when I met them.” or “How can I get my partner to change?” These are the kinds of questions we often ask. But are we not seeing the full picture? And are we focused on trying the change the wrong person? Expectations lead to disappointment, and this … Continue reading Relationship Expectations, Reality & Disappointment
So there's someone you find attractive and you finally work up the courage to tell them only to be rejected. It feels like you've been punched in the heart and you can't understand why they don't see you as desirable and worthy of their affection. And if it happens over and over again you might … Continue reading Dealing with Rejection
Human civilization has existed for some 10,000 years and in all that time we have been killing one another, raping, stealing, exploiting one another, and destroying the natural ecosystem which supports our very existence. No other species behaves so recklessly. No other species is so systematically self-destructive. Religions have not solved the problem. Governments have … Continue reading Why Is There So Much Conflict in the World?
According to a recent survey, roughly 73% of the (U.S.) population believes in soulmates. That is, we believe there is one special person who we’re meant to be with for the rest of our lives. But more than this, we believe that this person will be our perfect match in every way. And we will … Continue reading Why You Haven’t Found Your Soulmate… and Likely Never Will
Every relationship has its challenges. And we often find ourselves overwhelmed, unable to resolve tensions, and in some cases making the situation worse. We tend think of these challenges as problems to be solved or even escaped. But in order to make any progress, it’s important to understand how these issues arise. We need to … Continue reading Insecurity in Relationships